Category Archives: Counseling

Divorce & Remarriage, Pt. 1

This is the first in a series of posts on some of the more common biblical views of divorce and remarriage. The content of these posts come mostly from some lectures David Jones gave at SEBTS.

Introduction

Same-sex marriage is getting a lot of attention right now and for good reason. However, I believe there is a more fundamental and pervasive problem with our views of marriage and the family. As Dr. David Jones once said in an ethics class at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, divorce and remarriage are hands down the greatest moral problems facing the church today. What do you think about that statement?

Do you think divorce and remarriage are the greatest moral problems facing the church? Even though there is no way to REALLY know what is the greatest moral problem anywhere, I think Dr. Jones might be right.

Today we hear people complaining that we need to stop our government from redefining marriage, but haven’t we already redefined marriage back in the 1970s and 1980s when almost every state adopted some form of no-fault divorce law? Part of me thinks we should not be so surprised that so many young people today have a low view of marriage and are happy to approve same-sex marriage. Anyone born after 1983 has grown up seeing their parents treat marriage just like a contract. They have not observed the perpetual and life-long covenantal vows “for better or for worse, till death do us part.” Instead when things go bad and someone is not happy, then they get a divorce. The very essence of marriage as a covenant has already been redefined by both our government and an entire generation of “failed marriages.” Continue reading

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Twelve Tools To Help Someone With Depression

This list comes from John Thompson’s book Urban Impact: Reaching the World through Effective Urban Ministry. 2010. Pgs. 95-97

1. A depressed person should open the shades of his house and let the light in. He should not live in a dark, dingy house. Researchers agree that sunlight can reduce the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder—more commonly known as seasonal depression. A commonly accepted belief is that the lack of natural chemicals in the body such as serotonin promotes depression. Indirect sunlight entering the eye gate stimulates the body’s production and release of this chemical.

2. He should get out of the house, go for a walk, go to church, and force himself to spend time with godly friends. A person suffering from severe depression can stay locked in his house for months and even years at a time. To break the hold that depression has on him, he needs to take steps to change his environment. Continue reading

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Bob Newhart….STOP IT!!!!

This post was written by David Powlison and original source can be found HERE.

The following video is Bob Newhart’s spoof of a counseling moment. It is a sheer delight. I trust you will heartily enjoy the fictional Dr. Switzer’s interplay with the fictional Katherine Bigman, and will forward it to all your friends. It is, of course, a takeoff on the “Dr. Phil,” “Dr. Laura,” cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) that so dominates the American psychotherapy world.

Newhart’s wit also creates a perfect foil for understanding the contrast between what our world offers and the riches of biblical counseling. Here are a half dozen contrasts: Continue reading

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Mark Dever on the Problem of Evil

How did a sinless angel in heaven fall? What is the origin of evil? How can God still be considered good if he has allowed so many terrible things to happen? etc….

These are just a few of the questions I have heard people ask Mark Dever over the past few years during some kind of Q&A at church or another event. And every time a question like this gets asked here has been Mark Dever’s response:

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